2020: 36

26 November

12 x 3 = 36 = 18 x 2 = 36 = 9 x 4 = 36 = 6 x 6
3 Dozen (All Gold)

Today started with a cancellation. I was a little relieved about it because I was tired. I don’t sleep enough. My own doing.

I also had coffee with a friend. A young one. Almost 20 years my junior. I learn so much through our conversations around life, love, faith, beliefs, relationships and the myriad of topics we’ve covered over the two years of knowing each other. I’m fascinated by conversations with other generations and their experience and looking at the world through their eyes. I hope they feel the same about me. Being soundboards for one another and having challenging conversations when we meet is part of what brightens up my life. I grow, develop, think … He said to me today: “I enjoy our conversations except when you say what I don’t want to hear.” I laughed. I asked him: “What are friends there for then if not to keep each other accountable and speak the truth?” He is much more diplomatic than me when it’s his turn to say something that might be uncomfortable for me; it doesn’t stop him from saying it though … even though I have to figure it out myself.

Today’s discussion was uncomfortable for him. His body language spoke to it in the way he was just not his usual confident, comfortable self. Still, he was willing to share his heart knowing that the conversation would probably challenge him.

I respect his willingness to have the uncomfortable conversation(s, past and present). I know many older people who avoid those kinds of conversations like the plague. It kills relationships little by little when we sweep things under the rug. Social media doesn’t help because much gets lost in translation and people say more than they should in a way that it hurtful and do permanent damage.

Have hard conversations in person with your people. It teaches children to deal with the difficult moments in life if we make it part of our normal at home or in our environment. It helps us remain honest and authentic in our relationship.

Khaled Hosseini said: “But better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.”

The coffee was good. The company was great. Times like these always feel too short.

I appreciate you, our conversations and our friendship.
I look forward to the next challenging conversation.
You are also a soundboard for me and our conversations challenge me too.

Life is to be lived!

Coffee with a friend.
Photo Cred: BRUnattached

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